I really like soccer, but I love people first.
Photo: Police is “relocating” people from slum to “somewhere” over the rainbow.
World Cup for whom? Not me.
He doesn’t love you anymore,
Roll your shoulders back
And look him in the eye
Even when it feels like your ribs
Are breaking inward, like spider legs.
When he digs up old aches
That he swore he forgave you for,
And ask him why he didn’t leave you sooner.
Ignore the way the words feel like sandpaper
Running all the way up your throat to your mouth.
When he blames you
For mistakes that wear his face,
Do not scream.
Do not cry.
Tell him that there are boys
Who would be proud to say they’d loved you.
Tell him that in two years
You won’t even remember his name
And don’t let him see the way you can taste your own lie.
When he leaves
Ignore the howling in your blood
And do not get up after him.
Not even to lock the door.
Do not, do not
Smell his shirts when you box them up
To give them back.
Swear off dating when you realize
You’re chasing ghosts that wear his smile.
It’s okay to cry over him.
It’s even okay to forgive him.
But do not go back to him.
If he did not know how to love you the first time,
He won’t know how to do it the next.
I HATE IT when I’m talking to someone about women who have been raped, abused or mistreated by men and some guy comes in by saying “Hey not all guys are bad.”
I KNOW that not all guys are abusers. It doesn’t MATTER because even if there are a million good guys and only one bad guy and he hurts only one woman, that means all of us “good guys” failed to make that one women safe. EVERY SINGLE WOMAN IN THIS WORLD DESERVES NOT TO BE ABUSED OR ATTACKED. No matter age, race, or orientation. We live in a technical age where we CAN give all girls and woman their entitled protection against attacks, but “good guys” have other issues to worry about such as the economy and the issue of women being attacked is pushed aside by comments like “Oh she was asking for it cause she dresses provocatively” or “She should have know better by not walking at night.” Instead of teaching our society not to rape or abuse, we are ridiculously focused on teaching our girls and women to somehow avoid it. Women are given pepper spray every year and girls are not allowed to wear tops that reveal too much of the shoulder in school to avoid encouraging inappropriate behaivor from male teachers and boys. We are teaching our girls not to leave their drinks alone, instead of teaching society not to drug people. Girls are afraid of walking past a group of guys. They are afraid of pumping gas at 10pm. This fear has been conditioned into the female mind since youth. But no one views this as illogical behavior. And when abuse does happen there is always something the WOMAN could have done to “avoid it”. But it’s ironic because when women are cautious around men, they are labeled as a “bitch” “tease” or a “prude”. 1 out of 6 girls has chance of being sexually abused. 1 and 3 women experience violence in their lifetime. Globally speaking men are the biggest threat to women. But our society keeps the same views as raising our sons as “tough guys” and our girls to be helpless until they’re old enough to “properly” defend ourselves. Instead of actively teaching our young generation to view females with respect and as people not sexual object, sadly we are teaching our girls instead to try to avoid mistreatment.
All in all women are being sexually assaulted and abused. It happens all the time, everyday, day and night. But you know what, there are “good guys” out there so its okay right?